We all set goals through various means but how many of us really follow through on our goals and achieve them? Are our goals specific enough or loosely created based on our future plans? Many of us truly want to be successful in our endeavors; however, we fail to set the "right" goals which prevents us from moving forward.
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Setting goals involves many diverse factors yet for the sake of this article I will focus on setting goals using solution focused strategies. These strategies stem from a type of counseling called Solution Focused Brief Therapy, a popular approach used by many counselors (particularly school counselors).
According to Steve de Shazer and Insoo Kim Berg (developers of solution-focused therapy), the basis of this approach is to focus on people's strengths, resources and solutions to help bring about change. Shifting away from problems and toward solutions through goal setting is what promotes healthy change. Creating goals based on a solution focused approach is oriented toward the present and future.
The number one most important aspect about setting goals is that they need to be owned by you. Setting your own goals or co-creating goals with a coach will help you to take ownership resulting in more tangible outcomes.
There are many creative ways to set goals, however, the following list of goal setting characteristics will help you create specific, achievable, action-oriented goals based on a solution focused approach.
Positive
Positive goals in contrast of negative goals are creating goals with the presence of a behavior or start of something. Having positive goals allows you to observe and measure your actions. Specific positive objectives help provide details for when you are moving in the right direction which ultimately allows you to create solutions. Setting positive goals will help give you more positive results!
Concrete
Creating concrete and specific goals will provide you the opportunity to evaluate your progress and monitor whether you are on track for achieving your goals. Make sure you goals are not loosely defined but rather measurable with specific outcomes. For example: "Apply to five job openings a day." Write down your goals and post them so you can view them every day.
Behavioral
When setting behavioral goals it is important to think about the type of behavior/tasks you would like to incorporate into your goals. For example, if you have a goal to spend more quality time with your kids you may ask yourself questions such as:
*What types of things would I be doing that would tell me I was spending quality time with my children?
*What would my kids say I was doing that would show them I was spending quality time with them?
By asking yourself these questions it will help paint a visual picture of your goals and what they look like to you and your significant others.
Reduced to Small Steps
Create goals that can be reduced to small steps. According to solution focused theory only small change is necessary because change, no matter how small, creates the context for further change. Creating smaller goals allows you to manage your goals better and make them obtainable. It also allows you to recognize the smaller changes you are making which gives you more power to make bigger changes and achieve your goals!
Set Short and Long Term Goals
Setting long term goals is meaningful and probably the most important to us when setting goals. However, the problem with only setting long term goals is that they are set so far in the future that many of us would find it difficult to focus on or achieve without a short-term plan. So it is necessary to set both long and short term goals. For example, a long term goal could be: "complete my MBA within four years." An example of a short term goal could be: "send in 5 MBA applications by the deadline May 15th." Your short-term goals can be set for a few days, weeks or even a few months. Make sure your goals are time bound and can be achieved in the near future.
Hypothetical Goal Statements
If you have a hard time setting goals, it may be helpful to think about what you want in your future. You may need to picture yourself six months out or five years from now. Setting desired behaviors will help you to see what is possible. For example, "I would like to learn how to create a search engine friendly webpage to generate more traffic for my business."
Miracle Question
I cannot discuss solution focused strategies without mentioning the famous miracle question. Discovered by deShazer (1990), the miracle question is used to help you develop well-defined, achievable and realistic goals. Below is the miracle question. You will want to write down your responses to the miracle question to help generate ideas for setting your goals.
"Suppose you went to sleep tonight, a miracle occurs, and because you were sleeping you don't know it happens. The miracle solves the problem that brought you here. When you wake up in the morning, what clues will you see that lead you to discover that this miracle has taken place? What will you notice that you will be doing differently?"
Using the miracle question helps provide glimpses into solutions that may have not been present before. Keep in mind to be specific in your response and that your goals should include a presence of something or start of something (positive goals). As a result well-defined goals can be created.
Keep in mind to think about your successes and focus on what is going right because you are your own resource for setting successful goals and achieving them. Remember that setting positive, specific, achievable goals requires reflection and committed action!
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